Traveling across the country was miserable when my parents used to drag my siblings and I around in a station wagon and forced us to camp in mosquito-ridden tents every night along the way.
When you can’t afford basic amenities that many take for granted when they travel regularly, the idea of “traveling to find yourself” starts to lose its appeal. I was so sick of it that I had no ambitions in college to study abroad or do exchange programs with universities throughout the country. I just wanted to find a job, get an apartment, and start my life once and for all. Although it wasn’t an expectation, I was also lucky to find a wonderful partner at this time as well. My wife and I wouldn’t get married until a few years later, but we met each other in a coffee shop that is within walking distance of our former college campus. She was a senior and I had just graduated, and I noticed she was using a textbook from a psychology course I had just finished myself. I offered a friendly comment about her class and she seemed excited to meet someone who had been in the same exact course just one year prior. Naturally, it didn’t take long for us to get closer and eventually fall in love. Now that we’re married, we do a lot of traveling back and forth to our parents’ homes. My in-laws recently put a brand new ductless mini split in their guest bedroom and I was in heaven the last time we visited. The cooling effect from the ductless mini split is powerful and impressive, and it manages heating at temperatures above 40 degrees as well! I would love to have a ductless mini split for our basement back home, but we don’t have the money budgeted for something like that.